According to Dr. David Harold Fink (psychiatrist) there are six steps that will help you achieve success. As today is my youngest daughter’s birthday I will just accept Dr. Fink’s advice.

Set yourself a definite goal.
Quit running yourself down.
Stop thinking about all the reasons why you cannot be successful, instead think of of the reasons why you can.
Trace your attitudes back through your childhood and try to discover where you first got the idea that you couldn’t be successful.
Change the image you have of yourself by writing out the description of the person you would like to be.
Act the part of that successful person you have decided to become.