Think differently

Coaching is really just a way to get more out of yourself than you might be able to on your own. It’s like having someone in your corner who helps you see things differently, stretch a bit further, and show up more fully. You can think of coaching as happening on three levels:

1.     Performance Coaching
This is about helping you show up at your best in the moment. Maybe it’s prepping for a big meeting, making a tough decision, or managing your energy under pressure. It’s focused on what’s right in front of you and how to handle it well.

2.     Life Coaching
This zooms out a bit. It’s about helping you navigate the bigger picture—work, relationships, goals, balance. It’s about asking, how do I get the most out of myself across the whole of my life?

3.     Transformational Coaching
This goes even deeper. It’s a more meaningful conversation about who we are, how we see the world, and what really matters. It’s less about solving problems and more about shifting perspectives and growing into a truer version of yourself.

One step beyond

Through my coaching education, I have learned to move away from the instinct to fix or solve problems, and instead embrace the role of a true partner, one who focuses on drawing out insights that clients already hold but may not have thought to bring into the coaching conversation. I have developed a strong ability to connect the dots, identifying what’s necessary in the moment. And I also know how to stay present in the dialogue until every participant has fully expressed their needs and desires. Connect with me via email if you are a leader, manager or senior executive who’s looking for a thinking partner who listens deeply, challenges constructively, and helps you tap into your own clarity and wisdom.

Economic life lessons

The wealth-building strategy is simple: buy assets at a low price, hold them as they appreciate in value, and then borrow against their increased worth because loans are not taxable. Use the borrowed funds to purchase additional cash-flowing assets. The income from those new assets is then used to repay the loan. Here’s the key: never sell your original investments. Instead, take out a life insurance policy that matches the amount of debt owed. When you pass away, the tax-free insurance payout covers the debt, and your heirs inherit the original assets completely tax-free and debt-free. This is how wealthy individuals build and preserve generational wealth. I recommend you learn this buy low, sell high and never sell your assets strategy.

““A wise man can play the part of a clown, but a clown can’t play the part of a wise man.””
— Malcolm X

The future is bright

The education system is filled with good people who care deeply, but it’s still shaped by a legacy built for another era. Its foundations were laid by industrialists who needed obedient, factory-ready workers and that legacy is hard to escape. To create real change, we need to teach resilience and most importantly, we must nurture curiosity. If we can inspire a generation to believe in their power to act, to question, to create, I think the necessary tools and opportunities will follow.

What to do?

Strategy isn’t just a plan, I think it’s a way of thinking, a philosophy of becoming. It starts with powerful questions: Who do you want to become? What kind of world are we helping to shape? Back in 1997, my brother-in-law predicted that the world would become more connected, that internet speeds would accelerate, and that people would willingly trade many things for convenience and connection. He wasn’t wrong. Strategy lives in that kind of foresight, seeing where the world is going  and choosing who we want to be as it unfolds.

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Strong women

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Strategy is about clearly defining the change we want to make in the world and identifying the tools and capabilities we have to make that change happen. It also involves understanding how we can leverage time, systems, and even elements of play or gamification to support people in achieving their goals. I think that when we have clear answers to these questions, marketing becomes a much more straightforward task.

The coaching landscape

I think good sales and marketing is really about commercial teaching. It’s about showing people their options, what’s possible, and then saying, if this resonates, come to us, because this is what we do. Don’t pretend to solve everything, in fact it’s much better to only solve a small part of the bigger puzzle. My product helps bridge the gap from where you are to where you want to be, through structured coaching. But my focus isn’t on your problem, it’s on you. I’ll listen, I’ll ask the questions others might not, and I’ll hold you accountable for moving forward.

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Creating equitable spaces

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Real leadership is not about avoiding discomfort, it’s about facing it with care. Power dynamics exist in every leadership and coaching relationship, and avoiding them doesn’t erase them, it just lets them operate in the shadows. For leaders committed to growth, the real work is to acknowledge these dynamics and manage them with honesty and integrity. Ignoring power can create unspoken barriers, limit trust, and stifle authentic conversations.

Remember that naming the dynamic doesn’t weaken your authority, I think it strengthens trust. It shows you're aware of your influence and are using it responsibly. Especially when addressing behaviours that clash with your values, the way you engage is critical.

Respect for different cultures

As coaches, much like in sales, we are constantly required to think on our feet, navigating new and often unpredictable situations by relying on our instincts and quick judgment. To be truly effective, we must examine our own biases to ensure we do not discriminate, and approach every interaction with a deep respect for different cultures. I think our values are embedded in everything we do, from how we treat people to how we resolve conflict, both with others and within ourselves.

Mental strength is something we build

10 mindsets of mentally strong people

  1. They don’t fear being alone as solitude can be a superpower.

  2. They don’t dwell on the past, they focus on staying present.

  3. They don’t believe life owes them anything, they take ownership of their path.

  4. They don’t waste energy worrying about what others think, they stay in their own lane.

  5. They don’t indulge in self-pity, they choose action over victimhood.

  6. They don’t obsess over what they can’t control, they focus on what they can influence.

  7. They don’t resent other people’s success, they see it as a positive-sum game.

  8. They don’t shy away from responsibility, they know the price of greatness is responsibility.

  9. They don’t give up, resilience is their habit.

  10. They don’t fear hard times, they see them as opportunities for growth.

Which of these practices speaks to you the most right now?

Seek and you shall find

Passion is often sparked by what excites us, what we enjoy, what energises us. On the other hand, purpose runs deeper as it is anchored in what we believe, the values we hold, and the change we want to see in the world. When we lead with purpose, passion transforms, it becomes more than personal fuel, it becomes a force for meaningful impact. And the lens through which we choose to see the world profoundly shapes what we experience. If we move through life in search of excellence, for example, with curiosity, hope, and an openness to be inspired, then we are far more likely to encounter excellence in people, in moments, and in ourselves. On the contrary, if we move through life scanning for flaws and failures, our view narrows, and all we see are problems. What we look for becomes what we find and often, what we create.

““What a piece of bread looks like depends on whether you are hungry or not.””
— Rumi

Do you care?

I think disappointment, though uncomfortable, can actually be a sign that someone cares, it means there’s an emotional investment. So, the real question becomes: What do I value, and what do I need to do to honour myself in this? Sadly, we are living in a time where many relationships feel transactional, but choosing to lead with presence and authenticity is how we bring meaning back into them.

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Take responsibility

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In today’s fast-paced world, where many interactions feel transactional, choosing to lead with presence and emotional intelligence is not just courageous, it’s transformational. It requires slowing down in a culture that rewards speed, listening deeply when distractions are everywhere, and responding with empathy even when pressure mounts. Leading this way builds trust, strengthens relationships, and creates space for people to show up as their full selves. It’s not about being soft, it’s about being strategic with humanity at the core.

Emotional intelligence helps leaders navigate complexity, manage their own reactions, and foster environments where collaboration, innovation, and accountability thrive. I think in a time when so many are craving connection and meaning, this kind of leadership is more than a skill, it’s a responsibility.

Looking back

Sometimes, the life you want is waiting on the other side of doing the things you’d rather avoid. If you consistently show up for the hard stuff, the uncomfortable conversations, the inner work, the decisions you have been delaying, you will find yourself inching closer to the life you’ve always wanted. And when you take a moment to look back, you will see that every twist, every detour, and every challenge - even the ones you didn’t deserve or weren’t your fault - played a part in shaping who you are today. I think the rear-view mirror may not always show a perfect path, but it often reveals a meaningful one which was rich with lessons, growth, and resilience earned at every stage.

Stay aware

Don’t let someone else’s rudeness disturb your inner peace. Your time and energy are valuable and protecting them is essential. One of the most powerful boundaries you can set is to simply let people be who they are. The more you allow others to live their lives without trying to control or correct them, the more ease and clarity you create in your own. It’s a quiet but radical act of self-respect, one that shields you from unnecessary stress and drama. I think at the end of the day, your true power is not in how others behave, but in how you choose to respond.

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Use this reframe

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I think true leadership in relationships regardless of whether they are personal or professional will start with self-awareness. Therefore, the only real shift in any relationship begins with you. When you intentionally change how you show up, not to manipulate or fix, but to create space, you allow others to be who they are. That space invites honesty, reduces friction, and deepens connection. Instead of wishing someone were different, you get to decide how you want to engage based on your values and boundaries.

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It's better to show than to tell

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When it comes to protecting your reputation, actions speak louder than words. The way you consistently show up in your work, your relationships, and your integrity will always speak more clearly than any explanation you could give. If someone is saying something about you, the emotionally intelligent response is to approach them directly, with curiosity rather than defensiveness. Gossip often stems from insecurity or a desire for control, not truth. As a leader, you have the power to choose your response: is this something worth addressing, or simply information that helps you better understand the dynamics around you? I think in some cases, it’s not about confrontation, it’s about recalibrating your time, energy, and trust accordingly.

Healing takes time

Image c/o Gary Cook

No one really prepares you for how challenging it is to rewire your mind to embrace possibility after living through pain or trauma. Healing takes time, patience, and a deep willingness to imagine something better. As much as we may want to change others, the truth is, we can’t. What we can do is invite reflection, offer perspective, and lead with empathy. As a human-centric coach, my aim is to build bridges towards greater self-awareness, towards others, and ultimately, towards what it truly means to be human.

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In organisations and in life

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There will always be those who seek truth and understanding, and those who fall into patterns of gossip or misinterpretation. Some choose to focus on ideas and long-term impact, while others are more preoccupied with personalities or power dynamics. We encounter both rational, thoughtful leaders and individuals who strive for influence in less constructive ways. I think recognising these contrasts is not a reason for cynicism, it’s an opportunity because the more aware we become of these dynamics, the more intentional we can be about the kind of leadership we model and cultivate. We get to choose what we amplify, and that choice shapes the culture around us.