When people choose between talking about the past and talking about the future, the pragmatic person will always opt for the future and forget the past. It is always best to speak pragmatically to a pragmatic person, and at the end of the day, most people are pragmatic and will rarely act against their own self-interests.

You will always find yourself in the position of asking for help from those who are more powerful than you. There is an art to asking for help and all depends on your ability to understand the person you are dealing with, and not to confuse your interests with theirs. Most people never succeed at this because they are completely trapped in their own wants and desires. They start from the assumption that the people they are appealing to have a selfless interest in helping them, they talk as though their needs matter to those people – who, couldn’t care less.

Even the most powerful person is locked in the needs of their own. Self-interest is the lever that will move people, once you make them see how you can in some way meet their needs or advance their cause, their resistance to your requests for help will magically disappear. To see the other persons needs and interests, to get rid of the screen of your own feelings that obscure the truth.