Trauma is not resistance to something that has happened, trauma is the trace of something that has happened and leaves on the depth of the body-mind, there may or may not be resistance to this trauma. I think trauma may have its roots in something that happened to us as a child, but we can also inherit trauma from our family or from our culture. Trauma does not necessarily have a personal origin, it can come from the collective field, whether that collective field is a family, nation, or race of people. For example, if a group of people have been persecuted their collective trauma is passed on from generation to generation. Why? This is because we are not bodies, we are minds born from minds, therefore, the content or at least some of the content of our minds is passed on. Especially the deep-seated trauma which can be passed on from one generation to another and that trauma is then felt in the experience in the body of the next generation.
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What is the solution?
There is an illusion of inclusion, but in reality, we are all born into a world which is separated by class, religion, and race. Behaviour never stands still, it always getting better or always getting worse. I think the basic laws of behavioural psychology are as follows:
1. All behaviour is a function of the context that it takes place,
2. And then it is the function of the consequences
““Above all else, focus on acquiring knowledge and skills. Knowledge and skills are like gold - a currency you will transform into something more valuable than you can imagine. With knowledge and skills, you will become a magnet for opportunities.””
The chess endgame
One reason I love coaching is you are forced to take a holistic view. Coaches are generalists, who have to obtain a near specialists’ knowledge about a lot of things, for example, from behavioural psychology to political trends. We have to know a little bit about many things and then we must understand how they interact with the methods we are trying to install.
The chessboard metaphor is common throughout therapy to help develop the distinction between an observing self and avoided psychological content. I think that sometimes a well-placed pawn is more powerful than a king.
“Knowledge is having the right answers.
Intelligence is asking the right questions.
Wisdom is knowing when to ask the right questions.”