The self-disclosure loop is a common occurrence in human interactions where individuals gradually disclose personal information, leading to a sense of connection and validation. When someone starts by sharing small bits of personal information, they may receive positive responses or validation from the listener. This positive feedback triggers the release of dopamine in the brain, creating a sense of pleasure and reinforcing the desire to continue sharing. As a result, the person may feel compelled to disclose more information, hoping for further validation or a deeper connection. I think that in certain instances where the self-disclosure loop reaches a point where the information shared becomes excessive or inappropriate for the context. This can leave the listener feeling uncomfortable or wondering why the person revealed such intimate details. It's crucial to maintain boundaries and respect the comfort levels of others as not everyone may feel comfortable with receiving extensive personal disclosures, especially in initial or casual interactions. Being aware of these dynamics can help individuals navigate conversations more effectively and foster meaningful connections without crossing into the "too much information" zone.
Self-discovery is a lost art
Coaching is a process of helping individuals or teams to achieve their goals, improve performance, and enhance their overall well-being. A coach can assist individuals in discovering their strengths and weaknesses, exploring their values, and identifying their priorities. I think self-discovery is a critical aspect of coaching as it helps individuals to gain a better understanding of themselves, both their aspirations and motivations. Many people struggle with self-reflection, and this is where a coach can be helpful in guiding them through the process.
Most people are poor judges of how introspective they are, research shows that people tend to overestimate their level of self-awareness. This is known as the “introspection illusion” and it can lead to inaccurate self-perception and decision-making. Therefore, having a coach who is honest, frank, and authentic can be beneficial in facilitating the self-discovery process by providing individuals with an objective perspective on their thoughts and behaviours. Contact me via e-mail to book a free 45 minute one-on-one coaching session to discuss your needs, and determine whether we are a good fit for a coaching relationship.