You can’t grow yourself until you know yourself, and self-awareness is the foundation of personal growth. It’s difficult to improve without understanding who you are and where you stand. Much of my own self-awareness came from people who cared enough to point out areas where I needed to make changes in my life. I’ve learned that self-awareness is a continuous process, one that requires regular reflection. I often ask myself, what am I optimising for? The answer can vary for everyone, and it shifts over time as our goals and priorities evolve. This is why it’s crucial to revisit this question periodically to remain aware of how you’ve changed and whether your current habits can carry you toward your desired future. Sometimes, the habits that served the “old you” won’t be enough for the “current you.” When what you’re optimising for shifts, your habits must shift too. I find it helpful to have a regular process of reflection and review to stay self-aware, identify changes, and adapt my habits to align with my evolving goals.
A little bit more about me
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When I can confidently say that my decisions are rooted in love and aligned with my deeper purpose, it’s because I’ve accessed this clarity through meditation. In the stillness, I actively remove the clutter, noise and the weight of societal expectations, external obligations, and others' opinions that often cloud my judgment. By doing so, I create the mental and emotional space necessary to hear my own voice, to connect with my intuition, and to recognise what my soul is truly yearning for. This process of tuning into myself isn’t just about quiet reflection; it’s the foundation of self-awareness, which I believe is the gateway to authentic mindfulness. It’s through this mindful practice that I can align my external actions with my internal truths.
One string in my bow
As a seasoned leadership coach and consultant specialising in training and organizational development, I have successfully designed and delivered sales leadership programs for individuals and teams across various industries. My approach focuses on fostering self-awareness, enhancing communication skills, and cultivating leadership competencies that drive organisational growth.
““The best of all leaders is the one who helps people so that eventually they don’t need him.”
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Style never goes out of fashion
Today, Facebook reminded me what I have known for years, which is the more you know, the more you realise how little you do know! In leadership, every detail counts, including the way we choose to present ourselves. Let your style speak for you and make sure it’s saying that you’re a leader worth following. Everyday ask yourself the question, “If your style were to speak for you today, what do you think it would say? What do you wish it said?”
““Good manners will open doors that the best education cannot.””
Seek liberation
I think self-awareness, understanding one's surroundings, and seeking meaning are fundamental to human existence. The way we perceive ourselves and the world around us shapes our experiences and influences our actions. And the foundation questions are:
Who am I?
Where am I?
And what is this thing all about?
Increasing awareness
Since my school days, I have been passionate about nurturing people's development. And as a leader, I've always been mindful of this, always thinking, 'How can I empower and encourage my employees to reach their fullest potential?' I think that it's not solely about their performance but also about their personal growth, and I use coaching tools to enhance their development efficiently. And there is also the self-awareness dimension which is crucial, as this is where I not only learn more about myself but also continue to evolve and grow.
Self-discovery is a lost art
Coaching is a process of helping individuals or teams to achieve their goals, improve performance, and enhance their overall well-being. A coach can assist individuals in discovering their strengths and weaknesses, exploring their values, and identifying their priorities. I think self-discovery is a critical aspect of coaching as it helps individuals to gain a better understanding of themselves, both their aspirations and motivations. Many people struggle with self-reflection, and this is where a coach can be helpful in guiding them through the process.
Most people are poor judges of how introspective they are, research shows that people tend to overestimate their level of self-awareness. This is known as the “introspection illusion” and it can lead to inaccurate self-perception and decision-making. Therefore, having a coach who is honest, frank, and authentic can be beneficial in facilitating the self-discovery process by providing individuals with an objective perspective on their thoughts and behaviours. Contact me via e-mail to book a free 45 minute one-on-one coaching session to discuss your needs, and determine whether we are a good fit for a coaching relationship.
Health = Wealth
There are few talents more richly rewarded with both wealth and power in countries around the world than the ability to convince backward people that their problems are caused by other people who are more advanced. Remember that effort gets noticed, results get awarded and you are wealthy when you can freely decide what to do with your time. Self-awareness means reading the room and balancing one’s contributions to ensure a value exchange that benefits all. I think it’s about balancing ambition with value, knowing when to speak and when to listen. Knowing that given a choice of being clever or kind, being kind is right choice.
““Stupidity is knowing the truth, seeing the truth but still believing the lies. And that is more infectious than any other disease.””
The looking-glass self concept
A lot of what we experience in the world today is challenge because of how we see ourselves. According to sociologist Charles Horton Cooley, individuals develop their concept of self by observing how they are perceived by others, a concept Cooley coined as the “looking-glass self.” I agree that behavior and self esteem are dictated by a person's predictions of how they’ll be perceived by others. In other words, we live in a perception of a perception of ourselves, for example, if I think that you think that I am smart, then I am smart. And in contrast, if I think that you think that I am dumb, then I think that I am dumb.
The challenge is we are basing what we think about ourselves on what we think someone thinks of us. And the greatest challenge with this is how do you have any idea if what you think someone thinks about you is even true. This is where identity struggles, we start pursuing things in life because we think other people value them. Go to the root of the issue, it’s easy to say just take two of these a day or maybe you just need to do this, but when you look at it from the root perspective we have look at where our challenges arise.
““The challenge today is I’m not what I think I am. I’m not what you think I am. I am what I think you think I am.””