10 things that require discipline, not talent:
• Consistent sleep routines
• Eating healthier
• Honesty
• Journaling
• Kindness
• Laughing out loud
• Playing
• Reading
• Saying ‘please and thank you’
• Spending time in nature
• Staying in touch with friends
Be careful out there
It’s challenging to hold the attention of someone determined to be bored. When a person is selfish, self-absorbed, or narcissistic, they gauge the value of your actions solely by how much satisfaction you bring them. In other words, they're content with your efforts as long as you cater to their desires. However, the moment they tire of what you offer, they’ll demand you change to better suit their whims. The truth is, selfish people are never truly satisfied, and the arrogant are never easily appeased. So, if you notice that your ongoing efforts have no lasting impact on such individuals, and that their happiness depends entirely on you meeting their expectations. it’s worth recognising this dynamic as hazardous to your emotional well-being. Prioritising your emotional health is crucial, and knowing when to step back can be empowering.
It may be offensive
When I speak to others, my words must either inform, inspire, support, or bring laughter; otherwise, I choose to remain silent. If the conversation could turn hostile, involve anger or revenge, focus on right and wrong, or risk making someone feel unhappy or hurt, I pause instead. I wait until I can say something that will either inform, inspire them to grow, offer support, or bring laughter. Remember, comments from others can never bring you down!
What's the challenge?
I have become both a sponge and a filter, absorbing everything while carefully choosing what to amplify. On one hand, I want to give voice to important topics, but on the other, I don’t want those topics to be solely associated with me. There’s a risk of losing myself or making it seem like the issue is about me, which could undermine the message. My challenge is finding ways to support these causes behind the scenes, without drawing too much attention to myself.
Staying in balance
I've never really worried about what people think of me, except for those I genuinely know and care about. Why should you worry about the opinions of people who don't know you, who have never even met you? Why would their words matter? It’s easy to say these things, but they come from a place of balance. I’m not an aggressive person, and I don’t have a quick temper. Sure, I can get a bit moody, stand on my soapbox, and have a good rant about things that frustrate me. But I don’t experience that "red mist" others talk about. Similarly, when things are going well, I don’t let success go to my head.
I would say my character is pretty balanced, as I don’t get overly excited when things are great, and I don’t get too down when they’re not. This kind of temperament isn’t something you can teach or explain easily - it’s either how you’re wired or it’s not. In leadership and senior roles, this balance helps. You’re constantly under pressure to perform, and over time, you learn how to handle it and live with it.
From fixer to coach
As a trained coach, I’ve had to unlearn the habit of entering conversations with a fixer or problem-solver mindset. I'm still in the process of letting go of that tendency in favour of embracing genuine curiosity. I now actively practice asking questions that I don’t, and couldn’t possibly know the answers to. My role as a coach is to help uncover the root of any fears and support my clients in a safe environment, guiding them to decide what they truly want and how to address those fears.
What territory are we exploring in this session?
Personal? Professional? Community? Family? Friendships?
It doesn’t matter where we begin as these areas are all interconnected. My goal is to understand the whole person and help them explore whatever territory they wish to focus on in the session. What's useful for them is what truly matters. Contact me via e-mail for a free confidential 30 minute discovery.
Never complain, never explain
One of my life philosophies is to avoid complaining, which means I never have to explain! Complaining often makes others think that you’re either unwilling to take responsibility for your circumstances or that you lack the competence to handle them. When you complain frequently, you may develop a negative mindset where everything feels like a potential problem, even when there’s nothing wrong. Complaining doesn't improve the situation; it doesn’t help you grow. Instead of complaining, focus on working harder and letting your actions speak for themselves.
Disclaimer: This is not truly how I feel. While the above reflects a certain mindset, I believe in the value of expressing emotions and seeking help when needed.
3-2-1
Three essential rules for achieving success:
Know precisely what you want
Clear goals keep you focused and prevent distractions from deterring you.Determine the cost of what it will take to get it
Success requires sacrifice—understand the price before committing to your path.Don’t bargain over price
Once the cost is known, be ready to invest your time, effort, or resources without hesitation.
Life-long learner
Both Jamaican and Danish cultures value humility. I was raised to stay grounded and not "get too big for my boots." Humility is important, but sometimes you need to set it aside and remember that sharing your accomplishments isn't bragging if you’ve done the work.
I’ve learned that the less I strive for perfection, the easier it is to connect with people. Recently, Casper Emil from SparkForce gave a masterclass for my Brotherhood for Professionals of Color (BPoC) community, and he encouraged us to share our personal brand with more people. Now, I am posting on LinkedIn on a regular basis - wish me luck.
Ubuntu
Ubuntu describes a set of closely related Bantu African-origin value systems that emphasise the interconnectedness of individuals with their surrounding societal and physical worlds. The Ubuntu spirit embodies the idea that “I am because you are, and you are because I am.” It reflects the belief that our individual humanity is deeply interconnected. I think in essence, it means that we thrive through our relationships with others, and no one can exist in isolation. Ubuntu promotes a sense of community, where people look after one another and prioritise collective well-being over individualism.
Self-care is the key
What does success mean to you?
S - See you goal
U - Understand the obstacles
C - Create a positive mental picture
C - Clear your mind of self-doubt
E - Embrace the challenge
S - Stay on track
S - Show the world you can do it
Simple living
Three questions that will determine 99% of the happiness in your life:
What am I working on and why?
Who am I spending time with and why?
How well am I treating my body and why?
I think everything else is noise.
Supporting your colleagues
We may not fully understand our colleagues past experiences, which might lead them to feel undeserving of being heard. I think our responsibility is to ensure that every colleague knows they deserve to be heard. Some people truly listen when you speak, while others simply wait for their turn to talk. What type of person are you?
Cultural fluency
Have you ever tried to suspend your own involvement and just observe what’s going on?
Yes, one of the advantages of growing up in the inner city of London as a Black person is that you are exposed to a whole host of stereotypes. The only things I have is honesty and openness, therefore, I learned so much from listening to people. I learned that there are two major streams of self-awareness: “me,” which builds the narrative about our past and future; and “I,” which brings us into the immediate present.
The Equinox
Many people in Denmark celebrated Sankt Hans (mid-summer) yesterday. The evening is celebrated with bonfires, communal singing and speeches at both public and private events.
In the UK, we call it the summer solstice as it’s the point of the year in the northern hemisphere when the sun is at its furthest point from the equator, making it the longest day of the year. This is always the time when I reflect on the first half of the year, reflecting on whether I am on track with my mission.
”My mission is to accelerate goal achievement for individuals and teams by providing highly effective learning tools and experiences. I measure success by the positive impact on users' personal and professional lives.”
I know nothing
Disclaimer: I am not a medical professional, so please take the following statement as an opinion rather than professional advice.
Stress is a natural response meant to protect you, not harm you. It becomes destructive only when you ignore or mismanage it. Embrace your anxiety as a cue to make necessary changes in your life. Learn mindfulness, practice self-care, and adopt a healthier lifestyle.
Change your perspective
We all have our own perspectives. I think both comedy and creativity are subjective, as a comedian, no one can definitively say your joke isn't funny. In creativity, we get to share what we find beautiful, as if someone else doesn't like it, that's fine by me as it's not for everyone; it's for us. At the end of the day, what matters is whether I like it, and that's my favourite thing.
Morning thoughts
I woke up this morning with Professor Richard Feynman quote reverberating around my head: “If you cannot be corrected without being offended, then you will not truly grow in life.”
1. When you are alone, mind your thoughts
2. When you are with friends, mind your words
3. When you are angry, mind your temper
4. When you are with a group, mind your behavior
5. When you are stressed, mind your emotions
6. When you are winning, mind your ego
It’s official
I am now the Vice President of the Brotherhood for Professionals of Color (BPoC). In this role, I will manage our events and programs while supporting the President and other board members. Together, we aim to connect, mentor, and empower professionals of color, advocating for diversity and fostering a more equitable and inclusive workplace culture. Are you or your organisation interested in collaborating with us? Please reach out via email to discuss how we can work together.
Humble yourself
Nowadays I think there is a thin line between fame and infamy, in fact the line is extremely blurred in our contemporary society. People are willing to do anything, even negative and controversial things to gain fame and they are often rewarded for it. Meanwhile, there are others who gain fame simply by living their lives publicly, even if it means exposing their vulnerabilities or flaws. Both groups receive attention and validation, regardless of their actions or intentions.