kindness

Framing soft skills

We also tend to assume that those who look or think like us make better employees. We believe that someone who went to a certain university will perform better simply because we don’t know how else to measure their potential. And what we are beginning to understand is that it’s not difficult to measure what truly makes a difference. It usually comes down to human skills, for example, persistence, grit, and kindness. It’s about people who can encourage others to speak up. When we bring together the right mix of individuals, they consistently outperform those who score well on these false indicators of success.

What’s missing from this picture? Patience, situational awareness, and the core of teamwork, which is the opposite of bullying. When we’re fully present, aware of what’s happening, and act on it, the workplace thrives. It’s far better than simply shouting, “March faster!” while oblivious to the fact that you’re heading straight off a cliff.

Kindness is not a weakness

In a world where cynicism seems to reign supreme, it's easy to adopt the belief that nobody does anything out of genuine kindness – it's all just a facade masking self-interest. This perspective paints a bleak picture where altruism is a rare commodity and everyone is simply looking out for themselves. Change, if it ever happens, is portrayed as a slow and agonising process, often met with resistance and reluctance. I think in this cynical narrative, the pursuit of money becomes the primary driving force, overshadowing any noble intentions or aspirations for a better world. It's a harsh reality where trust is a luxury and sincerity is viewed with suspicion.

A life based on reason

Lucky people work very hard, have high integrity, show up on time, have good manners, show high rate of learning, are self-aware, optimistic, kind, and generous. I think that true spiritual warriors seek wisdom and knowledge from everything as no matter how educated, talented, or rich you are, how you treat people ultimately tells all.

““A humanist has four leading characteristics - curiosity, a free mind, belief in good taste, and belief in the human race.”
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— E.M. Forster
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Just be kind

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There are far too many people in society who see kindness as a weakness. From my perspective by actively working to improve the lives of others, individuals can contribute to the overall well-being of their communities and promote a more equitable and just society. There are many ethical and philosophical frameworks which highlight the importance of contributing to the betterment of society and helping those who may be less fortunate or facing challenges. However, it's important to note that perspectives on what constitutes a "good life" and the extent of one's responsibility to help others can vary widely based on cultural, ethical, and personal beliefs. Some individuals might prioritise personal well-being and self-improvement, while others might place a stronger emphasis on collective well-being and community support. I think that ultimately, the idea of a responsibility to help others achieve a good life is a complex and nuanced topic that can lead to discussions about ethics, social justice, and the role of individuals within society. Send me an e-mail and let me know what do you think?

““The three C’s of leadership are consideration, caring and courtesy. Be polite to everyone.” ”
— Brian Tracy

Think about it

When you win, be kind.
When you are ignored, be kind.
When you are stuck, be kind.
When you are upset, be kind.
When disappointed, be kind.
When you are in doubt, be kind.
When you are scared, be kind.
Kindness is defined in the Oxford English dictionary as the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate. Being kind is not a sign of weakness and I think kindness will always serve you well.

Evolved states of being

The person who exhibits the most kindness in a group often possesses great intelligence. When we encounter someone who differs from us in appearance, behaviour, love preferences, or lifestyle, our initial reaction tends to be either fear or judgment, and this response is rooted in our evolutionary history. As a species, we survived by being cautious of unfamiliar beings, and in order to display kindness, we must suppress this instinctual response and redirect our thinking. I think empathy and compassion are advanced emotional states that necessitate the ability to transcend our primal urges. Unfortunately, those in positions of power perceive empathy and kindness as weaknesses and view vulnerable individuals as mere stepping stones to further their own ambitions.

““People appreciate when you’re curious about them, rather than focusing on your own needs and what you can get from them.””
— Burrellism

Kindness is a strength

I think practicing kindness and humility allows us to grow as individuals as it helps us cultivate self-awareness. When we understand our own strengths and weaknesses while appreciating the value and worth of others is a manifestation of inner strength and confidence. And this nicely demonstrates that we don't need to tear others down to feel good about ourselves. Being kind releases endorphins, which boosts our mood and reduces stress. Numerous studies have shown that acts of kindness can improve our mental and physical well-being. It also enhances our sense of purpose and fulfilment, contributing to overall happiness and satisfaction in life.

Authenticity over algorithms

Many people consider kindness to be a weakness. I think it’s essential to be humble and kind, and also to know your worth. Remember, knowing your worth doesn't mean you have to be arrogant or dismissive of others. It means recognising your own value while respecting and appreciating the worth of others.

““Effective communication is 20% what you know and 80% how you feel about what you know.””
— Jim Rohn

It matters

All first impressions are non verbal, for example, when you walk down the road, your subconscious mind will automatically begin to categorise the people you see in your preconceived frameworks. I think that first impressions are when we become a blip on other people's radar not when we open our mouth. It's an immutable law in business that words are words, explanations are explanations, promises are promises but only performance is reality.

“Before you talk, listen.
Before you react, think.
Before you spend, earn.
Before you criticize, wait.
Before you pray, forgive.
Before you quit, try.”
— Ernest Hemingway
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How much is kindness worth to you?

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To me, success is an ongoing process of striving to become more. It is the opportunity to continually grow emotionally, socially, spiritually, intellectually and financially while contributing in some positive way to others. I think the road to success is always under construction. 

I am always impressed and grateful when I meet smart people. In reality, what I admire most in people is kindness, humility, optimism, generosity and shared knowledge. Therefore, I think that no matter how educated, talented or rich you are, how you treat people will ultimately reveal all.

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